Hug Therapy by Dr. Stone Kraushaar

Author:Dr. Stone Kraushaar [Kraushaa, Stone]
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9781642500714
Publisher: Mango Media
Published: 2019-08-07T14:16:02+00:00

Part III

Embrace Yourself

The foundation and grounding for all things that people do in the world and the way they experience themselves is tied to the self-hug. In other words, loving ourselves first. If that is not the case for you in this moment, this is something you can choose to start right now. It isn’t necessary to understand why the love wasn’t there in the past. Instead, begin to give yourself a hug right now. Humans by nature are whole and completely loving and accepting beings at the core. Now, today is the time to start allowing self-love to wash over you and to move forward in the space of a hug. Ask yourself: Do I love myself? What does that look like? The following are concrete examples of actions you can choose to take, demonstrating that you love yourself, based on how you are treating yourself. Even if you question your love for yourself, or you are certain that you don’t love yourself, hug/step forward and let the actions create the feeling you are missing.

The other critical question is “why specifically don’t you love yourself in this moment?” What belief are you holding onto that is getting in the way of you loving yourself? I would encourage you to go back and read “When All Is Said and Done.”

Okay, maybe you are finding this too abstract. This is where the rubber really meets the road and radical transparency becomes key. Let’s just imagine for a minute that you are sitting there thinking back to when you were fifteen years old and stole a hundred dollars from your parents. For sake of this example let’s assume that this escalated over time and you stole significant sums from your family, causing financial hardship for them. These are the kinds of situations to varying degrees that we each carry. It might be that you cheated on your boyfriend or girlfriend. It may have that you cheated on an exam. It doesn’t matter whether or not you got caught. It’s still significant in how you see yourself, because you live with it every day. You caught you, and trust that you are punishing yourself. It may have been a major offense, such as a felony, or a smaller crime or wrongdoing.

To be clear, crystal clear, I am not condoning any abusive or unhealthy behaviors that anyone may have engaged in or committed.

Regardless of what happened, take a hard look at how punishing yourself and/or hating yourself is helping anyone. I want you to consider that not only is it not helping, it is actually exacerbating the problem for you, the person you wronged, and the world.

So, let’s think back to a scenario that you may have engaged in, and feel guilty about. It is time to be radically transparent with yourself about what actually happened. What are the facts, and then, what have you been telling yourself and perpetuating since that event? Did that really happen, and am I completely certain that actually

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